The thumb of the left hand is on top, put (write down, remember) the number 1. If the finger of the right hand is on top - the number 2.

Imagine that you need to aim. close one eye

Closed the right, put 1. Left - 2.

Cross your arms over your chest

Right hand on top - put 2. Left - 1.

clap your hands

If the left hand is on top, then the number is 1, if the right hand is 2.

Results:

• 2222 - you have a stable type of character, you are conservative. You do not like conflicts and disputes.
• 2221 - you are very indecisive (ay-yay-yay).
• 2212 - you are sociable, you find a common language with almost any person.
• 2111 - you are fickle. And you do everything yourself, do not look for the support of others.
• 2211 is a rare combination of sociability and a rather gentle character.
• 2122 - you have an analytical mindset and gentleness of character. You treat everything carefully, show some coldness in relation to others.
• 2121 - sadness: you are defenseless and subject to the influence of others.
• 1112 - emotional, energetic and decisive.
• 1222 is a common combination. You do not show perseverance and perseverance in solving life issues, you are subject to someone else's influence. At the same time, you are emotional, sociable, you have charisma.
• 1221 - emotionality, lack of perseverance, very soft character, naivety.
• 1122 - you are friendly, but at the same time a little naive and simple. Prone to "self-flagellation" and analysis of their actions. There are many interests, but not enough time for everything.
• 1121 - you trust people very much, and you have a gentle character. Most likely, you are a creative person.
• 1111 - you love change and are looking for a non-standard approach to ordinary things. Creativity plays an important role in your life. Strong emotions, pronounced individualism, selfishness. You are also stubborn, selfish, but this does not prevent you from living.
• 1212 - a strong-willed person. You could say stubborn. You achieve your goals.
• 1211 - prone to introspection, a little closed, it is quite difficult to get along with people. However, you have a strong spirit. And if you set a goal, then most likely it will be achieved.
• 2112 - you have an easy character, you calmly find new friends, make acquaintances and often change hobbies.

It's not a fact that this test describes the real you 100%. But you must admit: there is clearly some truth in his results.

"It happened that there was a difficulty in communication - not knowing what to say and when? Hence there was resentment at oneself and anger at the fact that someone communicates easily. As a result, isolation, uncertainty and silence appeared somewhere in the side. "So I started my first article on the Body Movement blog.

And here you are? And besides, most likely, your hands were crossed at that very moment. Remember how you held your hands in such a situation?

And before continuing, I remind you that I put in the text success, ease, happiness programs that begin to grow like a snowball, and soon into your life favorable circumstances attract.

The crossed arms of the interlocutor can tell us that he feels threatened (nervous, defensive or negative). A person, as it were, is protected from circumstances undesirable for him.

Our subconscious perceives people with their arms crossed on their chests as closed and inaccessible. So open your hands when communicating. It is better to cross them when you want to make it clear to the interlocutor that you disagree with him or when you want to show that you have no desire to participate in the conversation.

Let's take a look at a few options for crossing the arms over the chest and find out how we can get away from these "defensive positions".

• Crossed arms on the chest show us that the interlocutor has no desire to reveal his soul to us, and he does not need this from us either. It makes no sense to continue the conversation in the same mode. How to transfer the interlocutor to more receptive state? The easiest way is to give him something to hold (business card, pen, notepad ...).

• Crossed arms over chest with clenched fists show not only a defensive position, but also hostility, aggressive feelings. So that the conversation does not turn into a verbal or physical attack, it is advisable to find out the causes of aggression. You can lean slightly towards the interlocutor with open palms and say: "Perhaps you don't agree, what do you think about this situation?" Open palms non-verbally show the interlocutor that you are ready for an honest, sincere answer.

• Arms folded over chest with forearms clasped they tell us that a person feels insecure and with such a body movement, as it were, calms himself, hugs. To create harmonious communication, you can support the interlocutor, reassure.

• Crossed arms over chest and thumbs up let us understand that a person emphasizes his independence, self-confidence. Shows the ability to control the situation. Crossed arms let you feel in safety.

Any crossing of the arms on the chest causes negative feelings and affects both interlocutors. Therefore, avoid such movements, open your hands. Change the topic of conversation or intonation, if your interlocutor "closed", let him know that safe with you.

Task for practice. During the day you control your hands - keep them open(no crossing). When communicating with a person whose arms are crossed, offer him to hold an object. Observe the reactions of others and your feelings - how you feel at the same time. Apply what you have learned and write what came out of it.

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Body language predates cosmetics, clothing, and even speech. Therefore, it is he who primarily affects how people perceive us.

We are in website We think there should be more charming people, so here's a short guide to gestures that you shouldn't use unless you really need to, so as not to ruin your attractiveness.

1. Hand behind the back in the grip

When you hold your forearm behind your back, this is a strong negative signal for others. Because we usually take this posture when we are gloomy or angry. And the higher you grab your hand, the more dissatisfied you seem to people.

2. Crossed ankles

Crossed ankles show that we are not sure what we are saying. If at the same time you also have your hands in your pockets, you can bet that no one will even listen to what you are talking about there.

Hiding hands in pockets, usually a person tries to hide nervousness. Although this gesture has many meanings and must be interpreted together, we most often use it when we are nervous.

3. Hands in the castle

The clasped hands are like a mini version of the arms crossed over the chest. "I want to fence myself off, I'm not with you, I'm in the house," - this is what this gesture broadcasts to others.

4. Raised hands in the castle

A variation of the previous pose, only worse here. The higher you raise the lock from your hands, the more you want to hide behind it.

5. Stoop

Bad posture not only harms the body, but also signals to others that you are helpless, unsure of yourself, and in general everything is bad with you. The same applies to the shuffling gait that is associated with the elderly.

Straighten your back and lift your legs when you walk - this will change your appearance stronger than a new dress, trust me.

6. Crooked smile

For many, such a crooked smile has already become a habit, and in vain: people perceive it more as a grimace of sarcasm. Do not follow the example of the bad guys from the movies, do not hesitate to smile sincerely and openly - this way you will gain much more fans.

7. Palm extended towards the interlocutor

Not everyone reads this gesture, but you should still be careful with it. If you are sitting at a table with a person and talking, do not put your hand in front of him, as in the photo. The interlocutor may regard this sign as “Please stop talking” and will remember you as an unpleasant conversationalist.

All this, of course, does not apply to the situation when the person you want to take by the hand is sitting opposite you.

8. Fists resting on the sides

A rather aggressive pose, which we sometimes take simply because we don’t know where to put our hands. Her signal is: “Well, what do you tell me? Either way, I disagree." To put it mildly, not very conducive to conversation and trust.

9. Thumb waving

We all know this gesture: a person seems to be pointing his thumb somewhere back. It turns out that it can often be regarded as neglect. You kind of say: “Yes, I know, I know,” and any of your answers looks like a careless go-ahead.

10. Hands folded into a fist

Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: Hiding behind a barrier is a habitual desire of a person. We learn this from an early age. A person seeks to protect himself from others. As children, we hide behind material objects - behind tables, chairs, furniture, behind our mother's skirt - if we feel that we are in a difficult situation. As we get older, we change our behavior.

Hiding behind a barrier is a habitual desire of a person. We learn this from an early age. A person seeks to protect himself from others. As children, we hide behind material objects - behind tables, chairs, furniture, behind our mother's skirt - if we feel that we are in a difficult situation.

As we get older, we change our behavior. It doesn't become that obvious. A six-year-old child will not hide behind a closet, he will rather cross his arms tightly over his chest if a frightening situation arises. The teenager already knows how to slightly disguise this gesture. He relaxes arms and complements his posture with crossed legs.

As we get even older, we master the art of making defensive gestures even less noticeable to others. Raising one hand or crossing both arms on the chest, we, in essence, form a barrier, trying to protect ourselves from a threat or undesirable circumstances that have arisen.

One thing is certain: when a person is nervous, negative, or defensive, they cross their arms tightly over their chest. This posture indicates that the person feels threatened.

Studies of the crossed-arms posture conducted in the United States have yielded interesting results. A group of students were invited to attend a lecture course. One part of the group was told not to cross their arms or legs, but to sit still and relaxed. At the end of each lecture, the researchers analyzed the degree of comprehensibility of the material and the attitude of students towards the lecturer.

The second part of the same group was ordered, on the contrary, to sit at the lecture with their arms crossed on their chests. The results showed that the group who sat with their arms crossed learned the material 38 percent worse than those students who listened to the lecturer in a relaxed position. The second group also demonstrated a more critical attitude towards the lecturer and the topic of the lecture.

These studies have shown that when the listener crosses his arms, he not only begins to treat the interlocutor more negatively, but also less attentive to his words. That's why many prep centers use armchairs so listeners are less tempted to cross their arms over their chests. Many people claim that they cross their arms over their chest simply because it makes them feel more comfortable. This is their habit. But any gesture causes a feeling of comfort only when it matches your mood. So, if you are negative, critical, if you are nervous or trying to defend yourself, then the pose with crossed arms will seem comfortable to you.

Remember that in non-verbal communication any gesture is important not only for the one who makes it, but also for his interlocutor. It may be comfortable for you to sit with your arms crossed, your head thrown back and your back straight, but do not forget that your interlocutor will perceive such a posture unambiguously negatively.

Standard arm crossing

This posture is characterized by crossing both arms across the chest in an attempt to "hide" from an undesirable situation. There are many crossed-arms positions, but in this book we will discuss only three of the main ones. The standard crossing of arms is a universal gesture, indicating a defensive or negative attitude towards everything in the world. This position is typical of a person who is among strangers at a social event, in line, in a cafeteria, an elevator, or in any other place where he does not feel safe.

During a recent lecture tour of the United States, I began one seminar by deliberately vilifying seven highly respected people who are well known to all participants and who are present at the conference. Immediately following my verbal attack, I asked the workshop participants not to change their posture. Everyone was surprised when I showed them that 90 percent of the audience were sitting with their arms crossed over their chests.

And they took this position as soon as I began my attack on respected people. This clearly proves that people take a similar posture when they do not agree with what has been said. Many speakers fail to succeed because they do not notice that part of the audience is sitting with their arms crossed over their chests. An experienced lecturer understands that such a posture is a signal that it is time to somehow break the ice, increase the susceptibility of the audience, apply some kind of technique that can change the attitude of the audience.

When, during a personal conversation, your interlocutor crosses his arms over his chest, it means that you said something that he cannot agree with. In such a situation, it is pointless to continue to insist on one's own, although the interlocutor can verbally express his consent. Remember that non-verbal signals do not lie, you can only deceive with words. In this case, you should delicately find out what caused the disagreement of your interlocutor, and try to make the conversation more confidential. Don't forget that as long as his arms remain crossed, the negative attitude persists. This posture was caused by a certain attitude, and it can only strengthen it.

I can recommend you a simple but very effective method fight this pose. Give the interlocutor something - a pen, a book, a notebook. Then he will be forced to change his posture, open his palms and lean forward. So you can make the interlocutor more open and receptive. One more useful advice. Ask the interlocutor to lean forward to consider something important. So he, too, will be forced to abandon the busy posture. You yourself can lean towards the interlocutor with open palms and say: "It seems to me that you want to ask something?" - or "What do you think about this?" - and then lean back, indicating that you are waiting for an answer.

By leaving your palms in plain sight, you non-verbally show the interlocutor that you want an honest, sincere answer. When I worked as a sales agent, I never started a presentation if I saw that one of the potential buyers was sitting with their arms crossed. Only after I was able to move them into a more open position, I got down to business. If this happened during the presentation, I, unlike other agents, had time to notice that the buyer had any objections, and correctly reacted to the situation. Unfortunately, many people miss out on very important non-verbal signals that can negatively affect the success of negotiations.

Crossing arms reinforced by clenching fists

If, in addition to the fact that your interlocutor simply crossed his arms over his chest, he also clenched his fists, then this indicates a hostile defensive position. This combination of gestures, combined with clenched teeth and flushed cheeks, indicates that a serious verbal or even physical attack may follow very soon. To remove hostility, and the situation is not entirely clear to you, it is useful to use gestures of humility. Stretch out your hand, palm up.

The person depicted in the picture is clearly hostile. The position of the man from the previous figure can be called more defensive.

Forearm girth

In this position, a person not only crosses his arms, but also tightly covers his forearms with his hands. This position reinforces the standard posture and indicates a reluctance to open the hands under any pretext. People often wrap their arms around their forearms so tightly that their knuckles turn white because the natural circulation blood. A similar posture is typical for people waiting for an appointment with a doctor or dentist, those who have decided to fly for the first time and are anxiously waiting for takeoff. This position indicates the containment of negative emotions.

In the courtroom, you can see how the prosecutor, in the heat of the controversy, crossed his arms clenched into fists on his chest, and the lawyer grabbed his forearms with his hands.

The social status of a person also affects the nature of the crossing of hands. A person who feels his superiority can show it without clasping his forearm. Let's consider the following situation. At the official reception, the CEO was introduced to several new employees whom he had not seen before. After greeting them with a dominant handshake, he positions himself at a social distance with his hands clasped behind his back in a hand-to-hand position, indicating superiority, or with one hand in his pocket.

Such a person will not cross his arms for fear of betraying nervousness or indecision. For their part, new employees, having greeted the director, may cross their arms completely or partially, as the presence of the boss confuses them. This position is convenient for both the director and subordinates, as it is quite polite and at the same time speaks of the status of the participants in the conversation.

And how does a department head meet a young, up-and-coming manager who also has a sense of superiority and believes that he occupies an equally important position in the company? Most likely, after they exchange a dominant handshake, the young manager will cross his arms over his chest, holding his thumbs vertically.

This is a defensive variant of the arms extended horizontally with both thumbs pointing up. This gesture was used by Henry Winkler, playing the role of "cool guy" in the series "Happy Days". A thumbs up indicates self-confidence, and crossed arms help to feel secure.

Sales agents should be able to analyze the situation and understand from the gestures of the buyer whether the tactics they have chosen are effective. If the thumbs went up at the end of the presentation, and besides, the agent noticed other positive gestures of the buyer, then you can end the negotiations and ask for an order. If, closer to the completion of the transaction, the buyer crossed his arms, clenched into a fist, then asking for an order would be at least unreasonable.

It will be much more useful to continue the presentation, ask for some questions to find out what caused the buyer's dissatisfaction. If the buyer has already said the sacramental "no", it will be very difficult to convince him to change his mind. Learning to understand body language will help you spot signs of negative attitudes before they become verbal, which will give you more time to use a different strategy.

Armed men rarely resort to defensive postures with crossed arms, as their weapons already provide them with sufficient protection. Police officers with pistols very rarely cross their arms, except perhaps on duty. But then, as a rule, they clench their fists to demonstrate that no one will pass by them.

partial barrier

The crossed-arms pose can sometimes seem too obvious, as it betrays our fear to others. Most often, we resort to a more delicate option - a partial barrier. This posture is characterized by the following: one arm is extended in such a way as to touch or grasp the other, as shown in the figure.

A partial barrier can often be seen in meetings. A person who is new to the group may take this position to hide their insecurities. Another popular variant of the partial barrier is the habit of holding one's own hands. This posture is typical of those who stand in front of a group of people, accepting some kind of award or making a speech. Desmond Morris believes that this posture gives a person a sense of emotional security, which is familiar to him from his childhood, when his parents took his hand in frightening situations.

Disguised crossing of arms

The camouflaged crossing of the arms is a very sophisticated form of gesture that is common to people who constantly have to be in sight. These are politicians, sales agents, TV presenters - in a word, those who do not want their nervousness or self-doubt to be noticed by the audience. As with any other gesture associated with crossing the arms, one hand is extended to touch the other, but instead of touching or grasping it, the person touches the purse, bracelet, watch, cufflink, or some other object located nearby.

But even in this case, the barrier is still formed and gives a person a sense of confidence and security. In the days when men wore cufflinks, they very often adjusted them when they crossed a room or a dance hall, that is, at those moments when they were in sight. Since cufflinks are no longer as common as they used to be, men began to adjust their watches, look into their wallets, rub their hands, play with a button on a shirt cuff, or come up with some other gesture that would allow their hands to at least symbolically cross in front of the body.

However, to an experienced observer, all these gestures are quite obvious, since they are all done with the sole purpose of hiding nervousness and uncertainty. It is very easy to notice gestures of uncertainty: stand in a group of people so that the newcomers are in front of your eyes. Good example- dance hall. Imagine young man, walking through the entire area to invite a lady, or a person crossing the entire hall to receive an award.

Women use less obvious forms of the camouflaged barrier because they usually have some kind of object in their hands - handbags or bouquets - that perfectly hide nervousness.

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The most common variant of such an implicit barrier is a glass of wine clasped with both hands. Has it ever occurred to you that a glass can be held by one? Using both hands at once allows an insecure person to form an almost indefinable barrier. By observing how people use masked barrier signals, we found that these gestures are used almost everywhere. Many well-known people use this technique without even realizing the true background of their gestures. published

Outstretched hand. In many countries, a typical form of greeting a familiar person is a handshake. In Western culture, this gesture is also used in negotiations, when an agreement is finally reached or a contract is signed. Nevertheless, Europeans tend to keep a distance in relations with each other, therefore, even shaking hands with another person, they keep a certain distance from him. In countries where hugging or kissing is not customary between male family members, one can often see brothers or father and son greet each other with a handshake. The participation of hands in the ritual of greeting is a custom that comes from ancient times, since from time immemorial people have shown open palms as a sign that they are not armed, as well as showing friendly and honest intentions. The Romans, for example, put their hands on their chests, while the North American Indians raised their hands up. In our time, the Berbers, for example, when saying goodbye, give a hand, and then put it to their chest, as if saying that the departing person remains in their heart.
The handshake itself carries a lot of information. If it is strong in a person, then this indicates his firm intentions or strong character, while a sluggish or weak handshake indicates the opposite. Nevertheless, it should be borne in mind that people for whom the hands are a tool of labor - say, musicians or surgeons - can shake hands with you carefully and with caution. Therefore, one should never jump to conclusions.

Hands clasped behind the back. Many people walk with their hands behind their backs. This posture is very typical for politicians and in general for people holding responsible positions. If a person put his hands behind his back, intercepting one another, this indicates that he apparently feels some superiority over the others, and also that he is confident in himself, his position in life and in his special position in society. This gesture expresses high confidence in the interlocutor: it is obvious that the body of a person with his arms wound back is open and vulnerable, and therefore he feels safe and does not expect any attack. As a rule, in such a case, he stands or walks with his head up, slightly sticking out his chest. However, if one of the hands laid behind the back is held by the other hand not by the fingers, but by the wrist or even higher, closer to the elbow, then this is already a sign of frustration, indicates a lack of control over the situation or an attempt to somehow cheer oneself up. . The stronger one hand squeezes the hand or elbow of the other hand, the higher the internal tension of a person and the greater the degree of his self-doubt; the more timid a person feels, the farther his hands are brought behind his back. But in a normal situation, he adopts such a pose when he stands or walks, while he often scratches his head, now and then straightens his tie or shirt collar. This is usually about a person's bad mood. By removing his hands from the field of view of his interlocutor, a person tries to hide the state of concern, stress, emotional excitement or frustration.

Arms crossed on chest. Folded arms usually indicate that the individual is worried about something or immersed in his own thoughts. Hands in this position can also be a kind of protective barrier that we unconsciously put up so that no one and nothing can penetrate our heart. Studies in the field of human behavior show that if a woman sits with her arms crossed over her chest, this means that the subject next to her is not at all attractive.

Hands down along the body. If, with arms lowered along the body, a standing or sitting person keeps his back straight, this indicates that he is calm and self-confident. However, when he not only has his hands down, but also his shoulders droop, this can be a sign of chagrin, boredom or depression.

Raised hands. This is a typical gesture of victorious athletes. However, depending on the circumstances, it may have other meanings. For example, the victim will raise his hands up as if to say "surrender!" if he is threatened with a gun or some other weapon. Hands raised up, but at the same time spread apart to the sides, can also be interpreted as an open hug and perceived as a sign of greeting or disposition towards the interlocutor. A person waving his arms is better seen from a distance. So if we want to get someone's attention, ask someone for help, or just say hello, we'll also raise one or both hands.

Hands clasping each other. This gesture, made by the interlocutor during a conversation, can mean his hidden tension or rage. He is probably in a state of extreme irritation and is making an effort on himself so as not to explode. If at the same time a person is sitting, then perhaps he will also cross his legs under a chair.

Hands clenched into fists. This gesture expresses rage or threat. In such a situation, it is very appropriate to look closely to see if the interlocutor's knuckles have turned white. It is also important to pay attention to exactly where he holds his hands clenched into fists: if a person is sitting at the same time, then perhaps he will put them on the table; if it is, then, most likely, it will lower it low enough. According to the results of recent research, the height at which a person holds clenched hands is directly related to the degree of his frustration: the higher the fist is, the more acute the dislike for the interlocutor.
Regarding clenched fists, the researchers came to other unexpected conclusions. Thus, for example, it was found that women very rarely use this gesture during a conversation, from which it follows that, at least as an unconscious action, it is more characteristic of men. In addition, it turned out that people who sit at business meetings with their hands clenched rarely make profitable deals, because their potential partners do not always want to do business with those who do not keep their palms open in sight: on a subconscious level, this is perceived as a lack of decency or dishonesty.

Hand wringing. The interpretation of this bodily sign is similar to that given to hands clenched into fists. Wringing hands usually indicates that a person is in a state of tension and anxiety, restlessly waiting for something and senses impending danger. Tapping fingers or knuckles on the table.
This gesture, as a rule, is also a sign of stress, frustration or anxiety. It can also indicate boredom or a suspicious attitude towards the words of the interlocutor. Often this gesture expresses the impatience of a person who wants to change the topic of conversation, or even end the conversation as soon as possible.

Hands folded as if in prayer. The person who uses this gesture is trying with all his might to convince his interlocutor of something, or wants to emphasize something very important in his speech.

Rub the palms of your hands. This gesture is an obvious sign of satisfaction with what has already happened or is about to happen. Here the intensity with which the action itself is performed is important, because the interpretation of the intentions of the person rubbing his hands depends on this. For example, when a sales agent really cares about the satisfaction of a client, in a conversation with him he will rub his hands quickly and vigorously; if he is just trying to “sweeten the pill”, then his movements will be slower.

Support your cheek or chin with your hand. Such a movement suggests that the interlocutor analyzes all the pros and cons and tries to formulate personal opinion on the issue under discussion. This is a classic pose in which the "Thinker" by the French sculptor Rodin sits.

Touch, rub, or stroke your nose. Such actions of a person are a clear sign of his self-doubt. He feels uncomfortable in his surroundings and, in addition, is set up negatively in relation to what is happening. If this gesture is made by a person saying something, it is likely that he is trying to deceive the interlocutor, although confirmation of the guess must be sought in other bodily signs. It may also happen that a person's nose is just itchy. As a rule, the one who tells a lie not only touches or rubs his nose, but also avoids making eye contact with the interlocutor, trying to distance himself from him or being afraid to be face to face with him.
If, in response to too energetic persuasion of a zealous salesman, a person rubs his nose, this most often means his skepticism about what he heard.

Rub your ear or touch your earlobe. A person performs such actions when the topic under discussion does not excite him too much and he either does not want to delve into it, or wants to forget what he heard. But sometimes, in such a delicate form, he hints that he has something to say and that he is just waiting for the right moment to join the conversation. It has been proved that in a minute a person can utter about seven hundred words, so that when people have to wait a long time for their turn, they often resort to this gesture, and sometimes even raise their hand, thus expressing a desire to insert their word.

Scratch various parts of the body. This can be a sign that the person is lying or hiding something, as well as doubt or self-doubt. Although, it is possible that he really itched somewhere!
Scratch the side of the neck with one or two fingers. If the speaker performs such actions, there can be no doubt that he is insincere or not too sure of the correctness of his words. This gesture is typical for a speaker who, in a public speech, delivers a speech written by someone else. In turn, if the listener scratches his neck, perhaps he suspects the other person of lying or has not yet formed a certain attitude towards what he heard. According to the results of some studies, in such situations, a person repeats this gesture on average five times.

Rub or lower your eyes and raise your eyebrows in disbelief. These are typical gestures that indicate insincerity and possible deception. The person lowers their eyes to avoid eye contact and not give themselves away. However, if your interlocutor simply rubs his eyes without looking away, then this, as a rule, means simply doubt.

Loosen shirt collar. This gesture indicates that the person is experiencing irritation and extreme frustration. It may also indicate that the speaker is telling a lie. Some people get a sort of itching sensation in their neck and face when they lie, and to get rid of this sensation, they make an attempt to loosen the contact with the clothes by pulling back on the collar. When observing such gestures in someone, one should take into account the temperature in the room and other factors of the same kind, because very often a person loosens the collar of his shirt simply because he is hot.

Put your hand on your chest. Many people resort to this gesture when they feel distrust on the part of the interlocutor and the need to prove their own sincerity and decency. In such cases, they instinctively raise their hand to their heart to emphasize the sincerity of their words.

Point your index finger at a person or group of people. This is a command gesture, which is a manifestation of authoritarianism. According to the rules good manners it should not be used, except in cases where you need to indicate to the interlocutor the direction of movement and gaze. People quite often resort to this gesture in skirmishes, for example, in a traffic accident, when two drivers argue who is right and who is wrong. Fingers are also poked when scolding children. Perhaps that is why many of us feel out of place when someone points a finger in our direction: subconsciously we feel like a delinquent child, and for an adult this is quite humiliating.

Keep hands in pockets. This posture is more typical of men and often indicates a state of some nervousness in which the subject is located, as well as the fact that he needs to somehow discharge himself.

Stand on your hips. They also say about this pose - "put your hands on your hips." It reflects the state of a certain aggressiveness of a person and conveys his certain threat to others. It shows that a person is ready for action, especially in a situation in which he feels uncomfortable. It is common for women to stand akimbo, thus emphasizing the forms of their own body: in such a case, the pose becomes emphatically sensual.

Also, there are nuances that often elude the attention of an unprepared person, which nevertheless were identified by researchers as a result of observing many people. So, talking about the future, a person usually gestures right hand; and if in some cases he uses his left hand, then his movements are directed to the right side. Apparently, people associate the future with the direction of movement to the right or forward. And vice versa, when people talk about the past, it's easy to see that they are pointing to the left or back. At the same time, if we are talking about what is happening at the moment, a person's gestures are focused on what is directly in front of him. The speed of gestures does not matter here, but it can tell a lot about the degree of arousal, satisfaction, or stiffness of a person during a conversation.

The above list is far from exhaustive. There are many other common gestures, but it is impossible to account for all hand movements and combinations with their participation.

Every time a person consciously or instinctively accompanies his words with some kind of gesture, he thereby conveys a parallel message, which sometimes coincides in meaning with what he expressed in words, and sometimes not. When we are faced with the need to understand what is happening, to pass judgment on someone, or to successfully solve a specific task, the ability to interpret the meaning of the most common body movements acquires exceptional importance.