How can you find out when a girl had the last sexual contact? What analysis should be done? How much does it cost.

Sergey Makarov, Chelyabinsk

ANSWERED: 12.04.2012

Isn't it easier to ask a girl about it? Otherwise, it is possible to force her to be examined only by a court decision.

REFINING QUESTION 05.10.2012 Kishmereshkina, Irina

and if the girl herself does not mind to undergo an examination to prove her marital fidelity? is it possible for doctors to do it?

ANSWERED: 07.10.2012

If you support your husband's delusions and are ready to follow him, then you both need a named specialist.

REFINING QUESTION 12.10.2015 masha, Karaganda

REFINING QUESTION 12.10.2015 masha, Karaganda

Hello! I want to prove to my husband that there was no sex 4-5 days ago, what can be done?

ANSWERED: 10/13/2015 Aizikovich Boris Leonidovich Moscow 0.0 head departments of pediatrics

Hello Sergey! If there is no pregnancy, the girl is obviously not virgin, then there is no way to find out the date of the last sexual intercourse if, of course, it did not happen an hour ago and there is a fresh seed

REFINING QUESTION 08.10.2016 Sergey, Brest

Tell me please, if, for example, 3 days ago and earlier, the index finger could hardly enter the girl's vagina, and today 2 fingers with a "whistle", is it possible from sex on the side? (we had nothing with her during this time)

ANSWERED: 10/09/2016

Hello, what nonsense. If a young lady allows you to "measure" the vagina by this method, then do you care?

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I was glad I took it

(woman, 22, single, first intercourse at 17)

The first intercourse took place in the afternoon at my home. We were not disturbed, no one was at home, besides, the door was locked. We had enough time. At that time, I loved my partner very much. We agreed on everything in advance and prepared. At the first sexual intercourse, I felt pain. Before that, I was scared, because I assumed it would be painful, and, of course, I was tense. I knew that the first intercourse can be unpleasant, and therefore I was not disappointed when I did not experience anything pleasant. I was glad I took it. Previously, I prescribed myself a pill.

The only pleasant thing that I now remember with pleasure is the caresses of my partner before and after the act.

After that we laughed

(male, 30 years old, married at 18 years old with a partner for first intercourse)

Our first sexual intercourse, so to speak, deprivation of virginity, took place early in the morning in a small rural hotel in which we secretly spent the night. We had known each other for several years and often went to bed together, got to know each other physically, caressed and even brought each other to the highest sexual point. We knew that we wanted to be together all our lives and that the first intercourse was just a matter of time. The introduction of the member took place gradually, until finally he was completely inside. After that we laughed. I still remember exactly the day - May 25, because I was still quite proud and happy, although the event itself was nothing special. After that, we felt even closer. And today I drive past hotels like that, still not without a romantic feeling associated with memories. As a matter of fact, the real first sexual intercourse took place only a few days later in the forest, and it was really solemn and intoxicating.

My partner treated me with great care

(female, 22, married, first intercourse at 17)

My first intercourse happened at a boarding school. The circumstances were therefore extremely unfavorable. Although we were alone in the room, we still had to reckon with the fact that we could be taken by surprise at any moment. I knew my then partner for four months, and the first sexual intercourse was preceded by a rather long period of acquaintance and recognition. We often talked about this, that is, it was not an absolutely spontaneous action. In a sense, I even expected from my partner that he would finally dare to take the last step. Before intercourse, I experienced a sense of anticipation and, of course, arousal. My partner treated me very carefully and tried to cause me as little pain as possible. After that I was glad that I suffered the deprivation of virginity, about which I was told so many terrible things.

Of course, I imagined sexual intercourse as something "divine", as the most beautiful thing on earth. Essentially, I have not experienced anything like satisfaction. By that time I was already taking pills and had some idea about intercourse.

Perfect the first time

(female, 22 years old, single, first intercourse at 18)

I received my own room from the company. My partner and I have known each other for almost a year. It was early September. We walked all afternoon. We still walk a lot and willingly now. The room was very warm, and after a walk (it got very cold by the evening) it was especially pleasant. I think we had a radio. We didn't know in advance that it would happen that day. But it turned out that way. Everything worked out well. Houses where parents, brothers and sisters are present, and in such small rooms with thin walls, we previously refused to do this. But now we were alone and we felt good. Thanks to this, it was great the first time.

True, I was terribly scared

(male, 20, single, first intercourse at 18)

I felt that something completely new, unknown, previously untested and attractive was coming for me. True, I was terribly scared, and I didn't know very well how all this was done. It all happened quite unexpectedly. My partner took me with her to one of the empty multi-bed tents. She tried to convey her calmness to me, but I felt only fear. During the "attempted intercourse" - I cannot call it otherwise - voices were also heard.

I was enlightened, I read books, and yet I didn't quite know what to do with intercourse. My experiences turned out to be the same. After that, we sat in the tent for a while, and I chatted all sorts of nonsense, while the girl tried to calm me down. I was disappointed and upset. This went on for quite some time until I managed to overcome my fear of intercourse.

I was completely drunk

(male, 24 years old, single, first intercourse at 18 and a half years old)

After an evening of dancing, I was completely drunk. We were at her house. Nobody bothered us. My partner was an acquaintance of my friends, I didn't know her very well. We did not agree on this in advance and did not have contraceptives. In the process, I understood well. You can't call it delightful; what is generally understood as a fleeting connection was more suitable here. Both before and after that, I did not experience anything special.

She climbed into my bed

(male, 24 years old, married, first intercourse at 18 and a half years old)

I still remember my first intercourse very well. Perhaps because it happened under rather unusual circumstances. It was a school trip to a youth hostel in the 12th grade: ten children, three of whom with their girlfriends (whom they all later married) in the same room. Suddenly, a fourth girl enters the room, wearing a tight-fitting nightgown, sits on the edge of my bed, and then lies down in my bed. A little later, the light goes out. I still remember these details, but the details of the subsequent sexual intercourse are not so clearly remembered, because the girl who came to me was not “the lady of my heart” - in fact, I had another in mind. Since the circumstances developed in a way that was unexpected for me, I was still a little dumbfounded and almost “raped” (maybe I am exaggerating a little).

So we weren't alone (although we didn't let us get in the way). Another problem was that, in theory, a teacher could come in at any moment.

We did not agree on this in advance. Our relationship during the four years of joint study was very uneven. She was certainly the best in the class, intelligent, diligent, but as a person, very fickle and unstable. The previously tense relations between us were replaced by great sympathy over time.

This sexual act remained the only one, it was not destined to meet again. I can also remember that my partner had amazingly soft skin, I was on the bottom and after several acts the next morning I thought: "In general, it is, of course, good, but not insane ..."

Now I know it's fine

(female, 21, married, first intercourse at 17)

My first intercourse took place on February 4, 1978 at my home. The parents were not at home. My partner walked me home from his birthday. We had enough time and no one bothered us. We treated each other well and had been together for almost six months. I wished for it that evening. From books and from friends, I got a certain idea about this. It really seemed to me that I really love my partner. However, the first sexual intercourse was somewhat disappointed. I imagined it all much nicer. Many films and what others say have too much influence on the person, and he imagines that this is a wonderful thing. I have been happily married for almost two years now, and I know from experience that a truly wonderful joint sexual intercourse occurs only when people have lived together for some time.

The very concept of "average duration of sexual intercourse" is not entirely clear. First, we must agree on what exactly we count. The term "sexual intercourse" can be understood in a broad and narrow sense.

What is "intercourse"?

In sexual intimacy (sexual intercourse “in the broad sense”), certain stages are distinguished. Namely:

1) foreplay,

2) frictional stage;

3) orgasm;

4) the final stage (postludes).

During foreplay, sexual arousal increases. People of different temperaments, ages, etc. it can have completely different duration and energy (sometimes it can be practically absent). The same can be said for the final stage.

Everything is so individual that the only stage that, in principle, can be measured is the frictional stage, which begins with penetration, that is, the introduction of the male penis into the vagina, and ends with ejaculation - ejaculation.

It is this period that is often referred to as "sexual intercourse" (although this is not true). It is about how long this "sexual intercourse in the narrow sense" should last further and will be discussed.

What does the statistics say about the duration of intercourse?

It should be borne in mind that you can measure the duration of sexual intercourse both in time units - minutes and seconds, and in the number of frictions - different men can perform frictions at different speeds.

So research shows that in the vast majority of cases, sexual intercourse lasts from 1 minute 45 seconds, or about 65 frictions, to 3 minutes 37 seconds, or about 270-275 frictions. The average is 2 minutes 24 seconds. The conventional norm is the range from 1.5 to 5 minutes.

Sexual intercourse ends with ejaculation, that is, ejaculation, accompanied by a male orgasm: continuation of frictions after this becomes impossible due to the disappearance of the erection of the penis. Thus, just the mentioned time, that is, on average - 2 minutes 24 seconds, is enough for a man to “finish”.

A woman, on the other hand, needs significantly longer stimulation to reach orgasm. Male and female organisms differ significantly in this respect.

For most men, especially long foreplay and the final stage are not necessary. By itself, a normal male orgasm lasts 5-10 seconds. The vast majority of men are not able to experience more than 1 orgasm during intercourse.

Thus, by and large, apart from these 5-10 seconds a man “does not need anything”. The rest of the frictional stage, and other stages, are "intended", rather, for women.

Even taking into account the need for some time for the growth of arousal, if the entire sexual intercourse lasts 20 seconds or half a minute, then this will be quite enough for a man to get an orgasm and sexual release. This means that it is for a man that any duration of sexual intercourse will be biologically normal.

As for women, most of the surveyed women received an orgasm 3-4 minutes after the start of frictions, on average - after 3.5 minutes. In doing so, however, there were significant variations associated with personal characteristics.

In different women, intercourse could last from 1 to 11 minutes - if you count from the moment of the first penetration to the onset of the first orgasm. It is clear that only very few men are able not to "discharge" within 5 minutes of the frictional stage (what can we say about 11!).

But at the same time, all surveyed women experienced orgasm, if not always, then quite often. This happens because human sexuality, and indeed the human psyche in general, is a very flexible system. Insufficiently long intercourse is compensated by a longer foreplay. Practice shows that two adults are almost always able to adapt to each other.

It should be understood that nature had good reasons to arrange the female sexual sphere differently from the male one. If in men an orgasm occurs directly from the friction of the head of the penis against the walls of the vagina during frictions, then in women the walls of the vagina are almost insensitive in this regard.

This is not surprising: if the walls of the vagina were as permeated with nerve endings as the head of the penis, then the woman would die from painful shock during childbirth, when the vagina was exposed to a very strong traumatic effect. For this reason, nature could not “make” female sexuality “mirror” in relation to male sexuality.

The center of female sexual sensitivity is the clitoris. It is located slightly above the entrance to the vagina and is not injured during childbirth. It is the direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris that leads to orgasm in a woman.

Since the increase in arousal in women with indirect stimulation of the clitoris takes longer than in men with direct stimulation of the glans penis, a woman's orgasm comes later than a man. True, for such difficulties, nature rewarded a woman with a longer orgasm, as well as the ability to experience an orgasm several times during one sexual intercourse.

But it is precisely for this reason that the abnormally short attainment of orgasm by a man creates problems for women: despite all the mentioned flexibility of human sexuality, a woman often cannot adapt to an overly short sexual intercourse. This problem should be solved with the help of specialists.

What determines the duration of intercourse

The timing of ejaculation in men can depend on many factors. First of all - from the physiological and anatomical features. Different people have a different degree of sensitivity of nerve endings: accordingly, they need different times to reach orgasm. For some men, too long foreplay "warms up" so much that later sexual intercourse continues for a few seconds.

Also, the moral and psychological state of a man plays an important role: nervous exhaustion, lack of sleep, general irritation, increased emotionality (or, conversely, emotional decline) can lead both to a more rapid completion of sexual intercourse, and, conversely, to its unnecessarily long duration. In general, men with high sexual arousal often tend to have intercourse lasting less than 2 minutes.

The age of a man is also of great importance: very young people often do not yet have a special sexual experience, and therefore they are not yet accustomed to properly controlling their body.

In men, the period of youthful hypersexuality ends at about 22 years of age. After this, a compensatory decline in sexuality occurs, lasting until about 26 years.

Then sexuality again slightly increases and reaches a plateau: it remains more or less constant throughout the entire subsequent active sexual life of a man (in the absence of diseases of the genitourinary system). It begins to decrease only during the period of male menopause, which occurs in different men approximately between 45 and 60 years.

At this time, sexual activity decreases, various dysfunctions may occur, including premature ejaculation or, conversely, its delay. In the presence of serious diseases of the genitourinary system, complete impotence can occur. After the end of the climacteric transition, sex life returns to normal, although usually at a much lower level. It is during the period of adolescent hypersexuality or menopause with the duration of intercourse that there can be problems.

The regularity of sexual intercourse is also important: after a period of prolonged abstinence, the first sexual intercourse may be too short. With active sexual activity, on the contrary, the average time of intercourse may increase.

It also matters whether sexual contact occurs in an established couple or in a newly created one. Practice shows that intercourse in an established couple is usually shorter, but at the same time, both partners quickly and effectively reach orgasm. Here it is a matter of "habit" - a conditioned reflex.

If the body “knows” that after certain actions an orgasm always comes (simply because it has already happened dozens and hundreds of times), then it quickly and effectively prepares for it.

On the contrary, after the separation of long-term spouses, it happens that for a long time they cannot then start a normal sex life with new partners: simply because they are no longer so young, and the habit-reflex no longer simplifies the achievement of orgasm, as it was with the former husband or wife.

Possible causes of too short intercourse

Possible reasons for having intercourse too quickly are as follows:

• hypersensitivity of the glans penis - congenital or arising from previous diseases;
• mental disorders associated with unsuccessful sexual intercourse before;
• vesiculitis or prostatitis;
• inflammatory processes in the organs of the genitourinary system;
• hormonal imbalance - pathological or natural age-related;
• diseases of the central nervous system, spinal cord or brain injury.

To provide effective assistance, it is necessary to understand what cause or their combination caused the problem. Not always, but very often the problems are primarily of a psychological nature. However, they can also lead to a similar effect. In such cases, it is better to immediately contact a specialist.

Possible causes of excessively prolonged intercourse

Too long intercourse is by no means as good a sign as is sometimes thought. A pathological delay in ejaculation can eventually lead a man to be unable to experience orgasm at all. The main reasons for such a violation may be as follows:

• diabetes;
• inflammatory processes in the genitourinary system;
• diseases or injuries of the central nervous system;
• alcohol or other drug abuse;
• pathology of the reproductive system.

In addition, certain medications may play a role. In particular, drugs that change blood pressure have side effects on the sexual sphere. It is known after all that even the famous "Viagra" was discovered during the search for a means to lower the pressure ...

How to normalize the duration of intercourse?

First of all, you should think carefully about whether this is necessary. Despite the fact that the length of intercourse between 1.5 and 5 minutes is officially considered the norm, it is considered inappropriate to intervene in the situation when it lasts from 45 seconds to 12 minutes: deviations from the norm in these cases are not so significant, and to adapt to lead a normal sex life in such conditions are usually quite realistic.

But if treatment is still necessary, then only a specialist can help. Usually, the following methods are used to make intercourse last longer:

1. Treatment of existing diseases of the genitourinary system, if any (infections, inflammation, etc.).

2. Psychotherapy (possibly also chemotherapy) of existing nervous disorders affecting the sexual sphere.

3. Hormone therapy (in particular, for dysfunctions during menopause).

4. Operative, including surgical intervention in order to decrease or increase the sensitivity of the glans penis. There are different methods here: from circumcision of the foreskin to creating a layer of hyaluronic acid under the skin of the head (using injections).

5. The use of additional means during sexual intercourse: thick rubber condoms to reduce sensitivity or a variety of sexual "toys" to increase arousal.

Currently, methods of therapy for sexual dysfunctions associated with a violation of the normal duration of sexual intercourse are well developed.

// Selected issues of forensic medical examination. - Khabarovsk, 2000 - No. 3. - S. 62-63.

Some signs of former intercourse

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V.V. Khokhlov and L.E. Kuznetsov in the "Guide to Forensic Medicine" 1998) write that the evidence and signs of sexual intercourse are: defloration, the presence of seminal fluid in the woman's genital tract, pregnancy, infection with venereal and diseases.

Sexual intercourse means the insertion of a man's penis into a woman's vagina, while virgins may have defloration, i.e. violation of the integrity of the hymen. The sexual act is not a legal and not a criminal law concept, but a physiological act that is possible only between persons and of different sexes, between a man and a woman (Comments to the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation, 1998).

However hymen intact can also be disturbed when solid blunt objects (stick, bottle) are inserted into the vagina, by the action of human fingers and even inside vaginal tampons, especially when they are introduced to virgins and without first consulting a doctor. Thus, defloration is not an independent sign of previous intercourse.

Expression " the presence of seminal fluid in the genital tract of a woman"requires correction, because the question arises - where does the genital tract begin: from the labia majora or labia minora, from the vestibule of the vagina or from the hymen? Anatomical atlases of many generations divide the female genital organs into external and internal. And on those and other genitals organs can be found sperm. The authors believe that "the detection of semen in the contents of the vagina is an indisputable sign of former sexual intercourse" and further "evidence of former sexual intercourse is pregnancy." However, sperm can get into the vagina from its vestibule as a result ejaculation, while pregnancy and infection with a venereal disease are possible.Consequently, none of these signs is reliable, much less indisputable, to determine the former sexual intercourse, and they must be taken into account only in aggregate, in accordance with the case materials.

Ejaculation on the eve of the vagina without copulation, i.e. without the introduction of the penis into the vagina, it is not sexual intercourse both in a medical and legal sense, and sperm cells through the vagina may well reach the external os of the uterus. Infection with a venereal disease can occur as with oral genital contact, petting, lecherous actions, especially with contact and friction in the genital area.

The number of sexual crimes is growing steadily. We see the reasons for this in the following: early sexual development and early puberty, causing or provoking behavior, unfavorable environmental conditions (erotic films, leisure companies, staying at night on the city streets, lack of control over the behavior of adolescents, etc.) ...

In connection with the above, the conclusion of V.N. Kryukov (1990) that "although the integrity of the hymen is the main sign of sexual inviolability, its violation is not an absolutely indisputable sign of former sexual intercourse" seems more correct to us, and the opinion of A.R. Denkovsky and A.A. Matysheva (1976) that “the expert assessment of the damage found should be done very carefully, since there are no reliable signs of forced sexual intercourse".